What happens when someone tells you no? — I boarded a plane to Boston heartbroken over yet another failed ‘relationship’. I was flying back East for a wedding {to only make the injury worse}. “How did I manage to screw this one up, too?” I kept thinking to myself. …

Don’t fall into this trap. — I was 26 and in the prime of my life I had a good job, a nice car, and lived in the beautiful city of Los Angeles By many standards life was really good I was even starting to dip my toe into the ‘personal development’ world and little by…

Ask yourself this question when meeting someone new. — When I go back through my dating history Reflecting on all the relationships that didn’t work out I’m not shocked to realize “yep, the signs were definitely there” The partners who would say one thing but do something completely different Disappear with no explanation and then come back Or best…

The advice I got to open my heart back up. — I was standing at the ATM in a ton of panic. Waiting as it processed my card hoping it would get spit back out with no issues. Being in Bali the one thing people told me was “it’s impossible to get mail here” so losing my ATM card would be…

Learn how to be a consistent person in your own life, first. — For most of my twenties I dated “hot and cold” men (almost exclusively). Things would be going great (or so I thought) and then they’d disappear. They’d be affectionate, interested, then we’d have sex and I’d never hear from them again. Even in serious relationships my partners would be loving…

Was move on, so I could move on too. — A friend of mine is in a unique situation. She’s going through a recent breakup and has to see her ex frequently. It’s made it hard for her to be able to let go (very little “out of sight out of mind”) and last month she got pulled back in. …

Where are the intelligent, growth-minded, decent humans hanging out? — I did an inventory of my last 3 significant relationships and realized all 3 of them didn’t involve a dating app. One of the biggest questions I get asked as a dating coach (usually from frustrated women trying to meet people online) is: “Where do I find high-quality people to…

Have you ever wondered why so many people meet their partners at work? — Have you ever wondered why so many people meet their partners at work? Or in college? Or in high school? Or in their small town? It’s not just a lucky coincidence, it’s called the Law of Probability. You show up to work 5 days a week, 8 hours a day…

Getting set-up with someone high-quality is easier than you think. — I met my current boyfriend almost a year ago, without having to use a dating app. I wasn’t particularly against online dating or apps, I’d actually had success on them in the past, but for this stage in my life they felt time consuming. It was a total hit or…